August 23, 2007
Does God Tolerate Our Emotional Affairs as We Grow Spiritually?
Emotional affairs turn us from our primary love. We become so attached emotionally to someone else or something else that we justify in our minds that we are right because our needs are being met. Surely God wants us to be happy, right?
As our prmiary love slips to our secondary love we continue to justify the choices we make. On the surface nothing changes because we are careful to say and do the right things. We go to church, read our Bibles, pray, contribute financially, and do what we can to help others. We look good to ourselves and others, yet our heart is divided.
God is not fooled by what we say or do. He knows our hearts. Hebrews 4:12-13 says, "For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirt, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account."
Based on that Scripture, I would say that God does not tolerate our emotional affairs, especially when we are growing spiritually. He does not want a limp, weak relationship with us. A strong, vibrant, truthful relationship is what He seeks with every person who comes to Him.
But what about all the "junk" we bring with us that is not pleasing to God. How does He deal with that? Psalms 103:12 says, "As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us." I don’t know about you, but I’ve never seen the east meet the west.
Emotional affairs destroy the essence of oneness with our primary love. When we emotionally turn from God in pursuit of someone or something else that has captured our hearts, how do we make it right with Him? We don’t. Our job is to acknowledge our sin, confess it, and ask forgiveness. Our choices must then reflect the return to and commitment to our primary love rather than our emotional affair.
God is gracious. In Ezekiel 37:4-6, He said, "Prophesy to these bones and say to them, ‘Dry bones, hear the word of the LORD! This is what the Sovereign LORD says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life. I will attach tendons to you and make flesh come upon you and cover you with skin; I will put breath in you and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the LORD.’"
If God can bring dry bones to life, He can certainly forgive and give spiritual life to to all who come to Him after emotional affairs.
Are you willing to experience the goodness of God after emotional affairs? Turn to Him, acknowledge what you have done (be truthful), confess it, and ask forgiveness.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
Don’t remain a captive to emotional affairs. Spiritual growth and obedience to God’s Word have the power to free you and give you an undivided heart for God.